Common and stupid types of parenting
All of us in childhood thought: “I will not raise their children the way my parents raised me. I have them as well off to ride”. But the way your parents raised you, very much affects your life in General and the education of their own children. And I didn’t deny or say that you are masters of your life, everything that surrounds you and that motivates you – it’s the result of upbringing and the influence of school and TV. Someone thinks upbringing that gave parents truly faithful, and someone goes to the education of their children drastically the other way.
And as always we will figure out together once a lot of important question which will help us in the relationship, in this case, with children. And more specifically: we will find out what are the types of education of children to choose for themselves the most faithful method in education. As the side view always helps to choose the right direction in any area of life, this article will help to take a step back from your own bias and to analyze how educated you and not rush you do not need the extreme in the relationship with their child.
In General, the education depends on the nature of parents and their mindsets. Because parents pass on to their children a taste for happiness or, in other words, lay or not lay them in an understanding of the meaning of life. Many children repeat the scenario of life of their parents. Without realizing it, adults they, as parents, cheating, divorce, fighting. ie way relationship and communication between parents in more than half of the cases reflected negatively on family life of the child, as he repeats the same mistakes and parents, and adding, as in every generation in our time there is a different impact of the media.
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So what kind of education is correct, as to try to avoid unpleasant consequences in adult life of Your child? There are different types of education of children from the most positive to the most negative.
1. The child is the most helpless creature. So he went for himself, his future, so he was healthy cognitive interest, you need to make great efforts to parents. Parents should raise the child by example that this way of parenting is the most appropriate and effective. Imagine yourself: in the evening the whole family sits in front of the TV and watching an interesting film, but the child needs to do homework. Because of this, it will buy and send to my room to do homework. So when the house is all rest and relax, little man, who doesn’t even understand why it is necessary, you need to learn the lessons we need to break away from the family collective, from their lifestyle.
In the end, it turns out this situation: if the child has a very strong inclination to learn, he rejects his parents, rebelling against them and their way of life and leave quietly in the study, and if the child loves his parents very much attached to him, he accepts their lifestyle and gradually his desire to learn quenched. So if parents want their children to study in a house, then you need to create an atmosphere of learning, you need to want to learn and apply the right example for their children. Live and learn. There is always something to strive for, so the older it should not cause problems. For example, you can begin to explore the spiritual life, expanding worldview, and you can begin to study what has long wanted to implement, for example, drawing, singing, music, cross stitching and so on and so forth. The key is to create an atmosphere.
2. If parents cannot raise children as described in the paragraph above . they are trying to find other ways of parenting. When parents at some point lost the respect of the child, when the child ceases to obey, they have to resort to various tricks. Parents that the child fulfilled their requests, studied, played sports, etc. are traded with the child, i.e. try to interest the child. They tell him of the future award: “If you wash the dishes, I’ll give you something delicious.” In this situation, the child helps, not because it’s right, but because he gets some sort of reward. He no longer perceives the parent as an authoritative person. Such children will grow cynical and materialistic. Will be traded with their parents, they will have no sincere desire to care for them when they are old. And all because they don’t know any other way of communication.
3. If in the previous type of education parents . in my own way, and not quite right, but still tried to make at least some effort to the education of children, in this type of parents don’t want to do. First, parents begin to spoil him, i.e. when he starts to scream, cry or ask for something from them, they think it is more easy to give it to him, to satisfy his request. They want to live their life, the child did not create problems! Or when the child begins to want the entire row, parents simply can not meet his needs and as a consequence tantrums are becoming more violent. Then the parents start to leave, losing the last self-control and begins to beat the child. Naturally, this will lead to very sad consequences in adult life, both for the child and for the parents. We are not going to describe them, because all of this can be seen very often.
4. This type is the most negative way of education . In this type the child brings up the “street”. Happens in many different situations. For example, because parents are alcoholics or those parents who just don’t have time to give the child attention, as almost all the time they have to work. Such children early to try alcohol and cigarettes. In recent times, these children are often completely dependent on computer. They lose the sense of reality along with it the ability to live in this world. It is hard for them to adapt in school, the community, it is difficult to create a family. Very often, these children try alcohol or drugs, can’t get enough of it.
Parents are responsible for their children, and nobody wants a bad future, but still this happens very often. In forces parents to do everything for the welfare and proper development of themselves and their children. You just have to choose the most favourable variant of parenting, and selecting it, you will change and family relationships in General, because as you are growing and learning with your child, you will be doomed to success for all fronts of life . No wonder they say that children – the power of life!